Alexis Jones' New Generation Of Girl Power

Alexis Jones' New Generation Of Girl Power

Alexis Jones, self-esteem expert and author of “I Am That Girl,” chats with Billy Bush and Kit Hoover on Access Hollywood Live about how families can empower, support and educate our teens. What are the keys for helping young women develop healthy self-esteem? Alexis’ book, “I Am That Girl,” is available now.

am that girl. New generation of girl power. What does that mean I am that girl. That girl we really define the best version of any girl in hopes that all girls will be able to claim that. You are saying I am that girl. Are you that girl. I better be. Good for you. You love who you are. You have got the whole -- do you have any insecurity. Of course I have a list of insecurity but like you were saying before I have an amazing father so he's the best man I know. Is that it. I think.so 90 percent of confidence they equate that to relationship that a daughter there's her father. So no pressure only 3 3 human you are responsible for. Writ now all I can think of are my failings and not my accomplishment. Okay from that point the what is the key here from a father aspect you just to, help them find the one thing or some thing they are great at. Validate. He didn't baby me. Didn't treaty me like the quote girls. Sure I grew up in a household of 4 older brother so I had a lot of guys in my family. Part and you mention this as well finding something you do well. Whatever that is so whether an art or running or for me it was sports growing up as well and so it was nice at young age to learn how to define my body as verify be and not adjective that's something we talk about in the become N.A society where the entire thing is about ornament about the way we look. Bombarded we 10 hours of media a day and 3000 brand em acknowledges a day that are all air brushed. To think to me it's like are we shocked that girls don't feel good about themselves. Of course we don't feel awesome but it's not an excuse to be a victim to that. I think now knowing the statistics. How much immediate yichlt we get to tips. What about social media because how can you trol them wanting to get lick and this is that generation. Yes. I think starting to have conversation. It sounds simple but being able to sit did you know and it is scary. The have days we get. How instant the value days is. Post something and if it's bad enough that we are seeing photo shop pictures now it's like photo shop lives. When you are looking at like instagram and Facebook. Nobody is posting look at me no make up. I look terrible. It's an adorable picture and editing it. So much fun. This is me. So fun. So busy taking the picture of having fun that you lost it. You are not even present. In the moment. It's awful. Let's get if you are tips about young girls can build healthier self-esteem. Sure first one we talk about is the passionate. What you are passionate about. That dad mom can do of asking the right question. Another one is be first. So it's kind of the counter intuitive but the idea of be the good kind of selfish. Love you first before you ever have the audacity of loving someone else. Be bold wi that is dream so huge people laugh at you then go and accomplish the dreams. Last one is be resilient. Not about if we get beat down or broken heart or if disappointed it's about when. So learning how to pick yourself back up after that. Well should father weigh N.I always worry like down the road she will come home dating some guy. I'll know he's a bum and say he's out. Yes. Yes. Or do you let her make that miss the and hope it's not a tragic mistake. Yes. You let had her make that mistake. Biggest things is that parents and I can only I emergency I'm not a parent yet how much you want to protect them and prevent the things from happening and I would tell parents it's okay to let your kids be disapplet your kids be disappoint the. It's really important because it's in the midst of our grit east adversity in our challenges where we realize we have a sixth gear that we didn't know existed. We have your daughter broken by a bum will date some guy you are kidding me. I remember the guy I dated my dad would roll his eye and say good gravy he's hoping like a band-aihoping like a band-aid can this. Not I are revirs I believe life long psychological dramatic. Unless engaged over there. This bum is good. Yes. This bum can take a ring I'll take you I tell you that. Oh, no bum. I grew up since I was 10. Crazy story. I went to middle school and high school with him and didn't see him for 10 years and ran into it. My dad was battling cancer at the time and he plays professional basketball and is one of my dad's favorite players. Hop player. Buckman. So when he was playing in the final 4 so my dad has a mask on very, very sick in the hospital. But that moment we come walking N.E. Can barely talk I'm date Thanksgiving new guy. I really I want to you meet him he was like okay. And brad comes walking in. Oh, hell and jumped out of bed and I'm like. I feel better. What? It was ridiculous. My step mom and I look at each other. What are we chopped liver this guy comes in and suddenly he's the life of the party. So I fortunately found an incredible incredible man. You are adorable. Get the book right now starting with the oldest Josie. Pass it down. I'll read it first, I would really like this really like this is your father, when is the wedding. August 16. Okay. He will be walking you down the aisle. Yes he will. Make me cry because that's what he wants to do. Yes. That's what he's living inform. Get me out of here. Let me tell you. "Access Hollywood live", really good. The book I am that girl is in stores now. Never too late to