Ashton Kutcher On The Secret To His Successful Marriage With Demi Moore

First Published: July 30, 2009 3:36 PM EDT Credit: Parade

LOS ANGELES, Calif. -- Caption Ashton Kutcher on the cover of Parade magazine, August 2009When Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore walked down the aisle in 2005, the couple, who are 15 years apart in age, turned some heads.

But four years later, Ashton said he and Demi are still going strong, and he told Parade magazine’s Sunday edition the secret to their marital success.

“The real trick is putting yourself around people you admire. That’s why I married my wife. I locked in the brightest light in the room,” he told the mag. “My wife and I have an agreement in our marriage, and part of that contract is that we are going to shine our lights on each other. My relationship with Demi is so solid, thank God, and we’re so communicative about the way that we’re feeling that we don’t allow space to come between us. I definitely believe that if you stop working at relationships, they go away.”

Although he is now a Hollywood film star, with new movie “Spread” – co-starring Anne Heche — due out August 14, the former “Punk’d” star said he still loves to cause a raucous.

“I’m still looking for trouble. I’m still disruptive,” Ashton said. “I’m still doing some things that other people don’t like. I hear, ‘You’re a moron,’ about once a day from someone in a genuine way — not as a joke. I see it, and I read it.”

Name-calling may hurt some stars, but Ashton said he totally understands why certain words come his way.

“I don’t have anything that’s too sacred to make fun of,” he said. “The truth is that I’m an idiot. I am. I don’t do things by the rules sometimes. I say things that I probably shouldn’t say. I push buttons. I deserve to be made fun of. And I feel like, as soon as you can make fun of something, it instantly removes the fear.”

While things are going well for Ashton, like many heads of a family, the actor said he often experiences pangs of sadness when he leaves his brood for a far away film set.

“I go and shoot a film and spend months away from my wife and my girls. And that’s a price to pay,” he said of the downside to Hollywood life. “I also don’t get to see my friends very often. You can’t complain when you’re so blessed. I get so many things that the notion of me complaining is obscene. It’s absurd. It’s ridiculous.”

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