Mary Lambert Talks Growing Up Gay: How Did She Handle The Bullying?

Mary Lambert Talks Growing Up Gay: How Did She Handle The Bullying?

Mary Lambert played a huge part in the Grammys’ most powerful moment, performing “Same Love” with Macklemore, Ryan Lewis and Madonna as 33 gay and straight couple exchanged wedding vows. Mary’s backstory is both tragic and inspirational and now she shares that story with Access’ Kit Hoover.

Now she shares that story with me. Your own mother came out when you were how old? About 6. What was that like for you? It was fine. I don't think you really understand totally what's going on. Just like mom's dating somebody new. The divorce was difficult. My parents' divorce. But you know, as far as sexual orientation, it's like, you know, you can understand at a really young age how universal love is. And it wasn't until I bass like in, you know, middle school or grade school that I was like, okay, I'm weird now. Were you treated different because of it or were you embarrassed or ashamed of it? I've always been outspoken. I was always championing. You can't say the word "Gay" in a negative way. My mom's gay. Then it turned out that like everybody called me a lesbian behind my back when I was in fifth grade and then, of course, I came out. Was that hard? Were you bullied? I was, but I was really delusional. I thought I was the coolest person in school. So like people would bully me, like the girls -- I remember girls cornered knee the locker room and they held up my pants. And they were like, what size are you? I'm a 12. I got those pants at target. I was just really, really delusional about it. I kind of think if I had known about what was going on, I don't think that I would have been okay. So it's kind of good that I created this alternate reality that I was really cool. Where does the strength come from? I'm not sure. I think I had an extremely beautiful support system in my life, including my mom. But I really have a community that has helped me. It's given me faith in humanity. Do you want to tell me about the back story, you've been public about it, about what led you on your journey to where you are now. My parents separated and dad went off. And I was sexually abused. I think also when ray bus happens really early on, we re-create that trauma in our personal lives. So I was in relationships or had these experiences that sort of re-created trauma and then I got to a place of healing, and it