Raising Brave Confident Daughters

Raising Brave Confident Daughters

Teen girls often don’t have the confidence that they need to stand up for themselves. We gather a group of New York teenagers to get their thoughts on what’s holding them back. Teen self-esteem expert Rachel Simmons visits the set with tips on how to talk to your teens about peer pressure and building self-esteem.

What if you don't have a date. Do you go solo. Are you confident enough to go by oouvr your situation. You go by yourself people judge you. If you are not with someone else. Moment from our last round table in the parenting series discussing the stress going to the prom. Parenting series turns to teens and self confidence. Recent study by ked shoes and the girls leadership institute most young teens don't have the confidence needed to stand up for themselves and it Auls all comes from peer pressure. We gets a group of New York City teenagers to get their thoughts on what is holding them back. The action you take really define who you are in high school and a lot of people unfortunately take action like this that make them more popular and they are not necessarily the best actions. The culture has sort of made girls not want to raise their hand or voice their opinion as much as they should so therefore they might feel, ;ztherefore they might feel, like, my opinion is not worth as much as, you know, another. It's so hard to get in the industry I don't know if I can actually do anything. Am%q&#241; I actually good enough. Do I have the talent do I have the passion. I feel like people like girls don't want to stand up as much because you might be afraid of making a mistake because you feel like if you make a mistake you are kind ofmake a mistake you are kind of, you are under more scrutiny than maybe a boy would. If you make a mistake. Every night I would plan out elaborate outfit I'll look good tomorrow. In the morning would I wear Jean and t-shirt. That's what my friends more. I value other people opinion better than mine. It's not a good habit. You should trust yourself. I worry too much about like being liked so that prevents me from a leadership role because I'm scared people will call me bossy or just say I'm uptight when I try to give them direction. I think a lot of society value put pressure on girls to be this perfect person that we see in the magazine and that's what makes a lot of girls really self condition shoes. I know people want to have a job. They want to be on a team. Do really well in school and I think part of that is college. You want to be prepared. You want to stand out. You want to get those scholarship so I think would I say we are pretty stressed out. I think balancing everything school, extracurricular activity, sports everything like that I think especially with the pressure from like colleges and getting into the college that you want and you have to just be everywhere doing everything and being the best at it. We just lettered from a group of young girls who admit to having a hard time standing up to peer pressure. Teen expert Rachel Simmons joins us now with tips to help raise braveraise brave confident daughters. Rachel I watched that and I thought maybe we would have come further than that. I didn't think young girls would be feeling girls would be feeling that way. In some way it's worse now because in the old day you had to be pretty. Had to be nice. Now you have to be smart. You have to cure cancer in the science fair project so under more pressure than before. Reporter: You have to get a lot of like on the instagram page. You do. Social media. I am of value if you have more like and then I'm comparing myself to your like because you have got 100 but I only have 50 so my friend calls it instance shame if I don't have enough instance like. We never knew when we were younger. You went home at 3:00 o'clock and see who was hanging out with who you didn't know who was secluded. Everything changed. Reporter: How do we teach bravery every day bravery? How do we teach them to brick away from the pack. So this project basically set out to understand how do we help girls be brave in every day way. Not enough to have confidence. This is what you believe but brave you put your belief into action so what we are doing is we are trying to give girls the skills to be brave in an every day way so what we found is that a lot of girls think being brave is being heroic in a big Hollywood moment that's not good. Because being brave is raising your hand. Telling your friend how you feel. Reporter: All right. Running for office. Doing things. As parents what can we do to help our daughters be more brave. Talk with girls about what bravery men and also model it. My mom who will be very happy if I tell the story she used to send cold French fry back and could you please reheat the French fry. That mortified but when I was older I had the courage to ask for someone to reheat my meals so parents can model every day small way. Micro bravery think about it that way. Reporter: Teaching them to -- each kid has, each person has a great set of skills. Some kind of talent, right. A gift. And oftentimes they don't chase it or try and water that garden because they are afraid of sticking out and being different and not fiting in and being cool. It's so true. So we know that friendship is a place. Our research the research that we did found that girls are really afraid of being judged by their friends before they did something brave. What do my friends think of me. That's what it's important to give girls the tool to fine the right friendship so at brave hart.com we have written amazing resources for girls to have the skills to talk to their friends. To have a conflict. When girls know how to do that in the friendship they can be brave in lots of other places. Talk about E Talk about every day bravery. I like that. What does that mean. That basically means like let's say really good friends and you left<ym- me out. Decided to make plans without me. Every day brave is kit it made me feel hurt when you did this talk about what happened and can we do it definitely next time. Not about standing up to the a bully necessarily about expression yourself and being yourself. Tip to being brave. Take positive risk. Put yourself out there. Get out of the comfort zone. Try out for the play. Great actress try out for them@o&#237; mraichlt or the team. Even if not this great feels good to put yourself out there and proof to yourself that you have more potential than you realize. =Hh it's contagious. More you do it the more you want to do it. That's every day risk. Just push yourself out of your comfort zone. Take beautiful pictures. Work for these school newspaper. Somethingnewspaper. Something like that. Find something this make you different. It's the biggest thing with fib. Find something that sets you apart and make you happy. Help you be yourself. It's so hard for girls to be themselves in this day when everyone is telling them who and how to be. Rachel Simmons cooler than. More with hilariousb(lz Brian Williams baby got back after