Self-Esteem Roundtable: What Challenges Do Young Girls Face?

Self-Esteem Roundtable: What Challenges Do Young Girls Face?

As part of Access Hollywood Live’s parenting series, Kit Hoover and Billy Bush take a look at the self-esteem struggle young girls face. A group of women chat about what holds them back in today’s society. Why do they feel so much pressure to “be the best?” And, what advice do they offer for overcoming low self-esteem?

a look at young girls struggle for self stichlt statistics indicate 7 in 10 girls have low self-esteem. That is tragic. We bring out author and self-esteem expert Alexis Jones in a bit but first we rounded autopsy group of young women to chat about what holds them back in today's society. Just so much how you are supposed to be and supposed to look and how long the hair is to be and what color your is have to be. You don't have to be that to be beautiful. My little sister is 13 and she's like she's big for her age and I try to tell her it's fine it's fine well I weren't to look like the girls in the magazine. We are always comparing ourselves. You know everyone I love the shoe I don't own that how come she goes there. We didn't feel validated until we get 12 the request on instagram. It's horrible. Every time a girl gets a compliment we turn it down. We are not what the magazine are showing. We are not this and that so automatically you can't be xy and Z. Right off the bat then when you get the compliment you are like. That tape in our head work on giving ourselves compliment and working on our self goes back to how we see ourselves. Girls no a relationship they tray to hide a lot of the sensitivity and emotion because they want to be what the guy wants them to be which is what a guy is WHA guy is which is not emotional. However, then the guy says to you you are being crazy. You are not being crazy. It's natural. And then you start thinking am I crazy? And they make you crazy. It's a vicious cycle. A lot of pressure on being the best. Parents don't want you to be a fail your and want you to succeed and sometimes we get confused and think no if I'm not the best everything then I have failed. You are taught to be the care givrment you don't have a truck in your hand. Playing with doll. The house. You have got the little kitchen and you are going to make food so you are automatically pleasing other people as young as 4 years old. All the things nothing to take care of you but somebody else. We have to work together to redefine what people think is you are supposed to be. Nothing you are supposed to be. Girls have to learn it's okay to be weird and quirky and that like being Normal is really boring. Once people start to see that is when everyone can see themselves and happier. Surrounding yourself with the people that feel that way too. One toxic relationship can like shatter that. Really need to be careful of who you are surrounding yourself with. That is sad to hear. All. That lacking for like and wanting to please and I had none of that growing up. I know. Social media it's a whole separate beat. It's a lot. Have days is right there. Immediately. Everything is instant. If you went to school bad day you grew up went home it died down. Everything is so immediate. I heard once that girls young girls get 90 percent of their ability to love or something like that from mom and 90 percent of the self-esteem from dad. So I 1 dider if that is true or if it's generally true, you knowit's generally true, you know, is there daddy issues that are in there. You just dropped off your dad. But you have tremendous self-esteem. So I'm wondering and do you think you got that from him. Honestly I think I do. I think that my dad treated me exactly like my brother. He threw a ball to my brother and one to me. He never treated less than or couldn't do this or that and found out I was decent at running so I excelled at something that gave me extreme self-esteem. Always seen as part of my identity. Strong for young girls something they like. 90 percent from the father you have 3 girls no pressure. I know. How do you feel? It takes a Ville annual.