Sexual Fantasy: Separating Fact From Fiction

Sexual Fantasy: Separating Fact From Fiction

“Fifty Shades of Grey” doesn’t hit theaters until Valentine’s Day but in the meantime, doctors Bill & Ginger Bercaw visit Access Hollywood Live with tips on using erotic fantasies to spice up your bedroom. How do the doctors define “fantasy”? And, what are some of the myths of sexual fantasy? The Bercaws’ book, “From the Living Room to the Bedroom: the Modern Couple’s Guide to Sexual Abundance and Lasting Intimacy,” is available now.

. I only wait until after 7:00 because it's not so intimidating. ""Fifty shades of grey"" will be here by Valentine's day. Good to see you good doctors. Great to see you guys too. Please, no stress here. It's fun. Okay. So how to understand what fantasy is and what's its purpose him fantasy between married people you would think fantasies are someone outside the partner they have been so long. That could happen, too. We recommend it stays between you and your partner. Basically, what a fantasy is, it's a sexual scenario you have in your mind you use to generate excitement and arousal. It can come from a lot of different courses, it can be a previous experience. It can be something you would imagine you would really like to do. Or it can be something so far out that you would never do it but it still creates that arousal and excitement. The purpose is almost always to overcome some sexual inhibition. So many people feel held back sexually to some extent. That's due to early beliefs and feelings about what it means to be a sexual person. The causes sexual blocks to feeling sexually free and expressive. Our mind's way is to use fantasy to basically turn the November of guilt and shame into the yes of pleasure and sexual freedom. What are the myths behind sexual fantasies? Yeah, I think there is a couple I'd like to address today. The first one is if there is any type of sexual deviants associated with sexual fantasies, research has showed that 95% of people sexual fantasies. Another bigness is if you have a fantasy, that means you necessarily acted out. Sometimes. F Mo better in our mind or a conversation. They're much harder to put into play. I would think to put it if a conversation. You better have a good communication between part first there, you are at the risk of it's his fantasy. What kind of monster am I living with? . What if wife is not into it. That's the great ting about fantasy is that it really can enhance trust in a relationship regarding talking about sexual communication if you have two things really in place. The first one is the learn person listening needs to not feel any pressure, you know, it needs to be a conversation either this is something that sounds exciting and I'd like to try this, what do you think? Or this is something that's been on my mind and I wanted to share it with you. The other thing the person sharing the fantasy needs to not have fear of being judged for having that fantasy. It has to be a safe experience.