Tips On Talking To Your Teens About Prom Night Pressure

Tips On Talking To Your Teens About Prom Night Pressure

Parenting expert and editor of Mom.me Anne-Marie O’Neill talks with Billy Bush and Kit Hoover on Access Hollywood Live about how to discuss with your kids the peer pressure concerns associated with prom night. What are some pointers for opening up a dialogue with your teen?

station. No sclol! By the time you're talking about prom it's the time to bring up the conversation. You know they are going to drink or at least be exposed to other people drinking if they're like the best kid in the world and don't follow suit. Take the opportunity to open the conversation with them. What are you concerned? Are you concerned about drinking? My father took the keys and put them in a bowl. Party senior year or something, if you wanted to have beers it wasn't a big deal. I come from a country where 18 is the drinking age. You're getting close to that by the time you're going to prom. Not so much the drinking, the safety issues with the drinking. I think it's really important to talk to kids, make them aware, ask them open-ended questions. Don't necessarily say, I don't want you drinking at prom. Maybe say, who's planning to drink at prom and how much? Then lead to the next conversation about how do you then stay safe. For the girls, the talk has to be, I feel like the boys, hey, prom night, which is so wrong, and for the girls like you need to watch what you drink and be safe. How do we approach that subject? Open-ended questions. What is everybody planning. What are people concerned about? It's go ahead to take control and give them tools to deal with it when things go wrong. My wife is very good at the open-ended questions. I'm don't do this, don't do that. They start chirping like a canary. Once you hear what everybody else is up to you can give them context. Connect the dots is that coming off the open-ended questions. Connect the dots. One thing to tell a kid, okay, alcohol may not be good in that situation, explain why. Explain kids are going to get out of control your might get into a situation that's not safe, pressure to do something you don't want to do when your inhibitions are down. Kids' brains are not as well developed as we give them credit for at this age. We have to go the full distance in the conversation and tell them what are the consequences in real life for what they might be doing to have fun so they have their head about them. You say arm them with the tools. Yeah. So the tools are basically a cell phone. That's -- Which by the way is great. You're in trouble call me. That's a real tool. Also it's great to kind of set up a protocol during the night. Okay. Call me at 11:00 or text me at 11:00 and tell me where you are and how you're doing. No judgments, anywhere, any time, call me or text me. Get a friend and -- who's your buddy and make sure that if you see them getting into a difficult situation, you call or text me or you call or text their parents and we'll all agree to swoop in. Having those things around you, at prom or on any night when a kid is out alone is helpful. I like the buddy system. Have your wing man. A lot of parents said they have a code phrase for their kids. Like oh, I'm so in the mood for fried chicken, that means get me out of here. Airlift me, get me home. That's a great one. They don't have to embarrass themselves if they're overhead by another friend. Don't assume the worst. Yeah. The other thing, we sit here and we sweat. We all went through prom night. Something similar. We survived. So it is a really great night. Let's focus on the positive and have the night of their teenage lives and not focus too much on the negative. It's not always going to go work. A lot of less nights for prom. How was your prom night. Went with Brett bare. Fox News report. More of a group thing. He didn't try to get a little action? No. Brett Bair. Special report tonight. It was for all for us and still the same, we went as big groups. Not very one on one, everybody went. Celebrating your senior year. Did you kiss Brett bare from Fox News? I called him to ask. I can't remember. I don't know why. I can't remember. That would never happen. He was a gentleman through and through. It's going to be fine. You have to go in and thinking it's going to be fine. Trust them. Wait until it's a couple years until your daughter's turn. It's coming. Don't assume the worst. Impossible.