Kristin Cavallari knows how to listen to her instincts.
The former reality star has opened up about why she called off her first wedding to now-husband Jay Cutler, and how she and the Chicago Bears quarterback ultimately found happily ever after.
"If something doesn't feel right, I act on it. It's just who I've always been," the 29-year-old shared in her new book, "Balancing in Heels: My Journey to Health, Happiness, and Making It All Work," according to excerpts reported by multiple outlets on Friday including Us Weekly and E! Online.
"Something wasn't right at that moment," she recalled of her and the NFL star's 2011 engagement. "A few things needed to change, and I knew the only way Jay would see how serious I was, was if I ended the relationship."
Kristin reportedly said in her book that she's always been driven to achieve long-term goals, regardless of the potential consequences.
"I always go after what I want in life, with men or otherwise, and I never settle," she wrote.
The "Laguna Beach" and "The Hills" alum recalled her "swift and intense romance" with Jay, and said her reluctance to become a stay-at-home wife and mother was one reason behind her initial hesitation to walk down the aisle.
"If I stayed at home, I wouldn't be happy," Kristin wrote. "And would probably end up resenting Jay for it."
The couple ended up reconciling in 2012, and wed the following year. Now, they're parents to sons Camden, 3, and Jax, 22 months, and 3-month-old daughter Saylor, and Kristin is keeping her career busy with a Chinese Laundry shoe line.
Kristin said she and Jay got back on track with the help of a counselor, and continue to seek professional advice about their marriage.
"I credit [our therapist] for saving our relationship," she wrote. "She opened up our eyes to the other person's perspective and gave us great tools for communication. … We still periodically see her to this day."
"Balancing in Heels: My Journey to Health, Happiness, and Making It All Work" hits shelves on March 15.
-- Erin Biglow